But what if I don’t fit?

Our kitchen cupboards are filled with airtight containers and every one has a label. There isn’t any confusion about where rice, flour, or the granola bars go. That’s helpful for the kitchen right? If I’m making a valiant attempt at making dinner I don’t have to guess between the pastry, white, or brown flour —…

Making space

Years ago, in the middle of an argument about nothing, a partner put it best “You make it impossible to feel anything but success, happiness, sadness, and anger. That’s it, nothing more.” And while I’m sure they hoped their comment would make me pause to reflect on the full range of emotion I’d cut myself…

On “yes.”

“Always start with ‘yes’.” It’s a guiding quote that I’ve held closely for as long as I can remember. “Hey, Romel can you/will you/would you do _______________.” “Yes.” No questions. No clarification. No qualifiers. Just yes. Yes comes at a cost.

God is with me.

I’ve been carrying around a lot of nervous energy recently and I’m pretty sure I know why. But first, a story.

From fear to power

fear |fi(ə)r| noun an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Or put more simply, that feeling that stops you for doing what you truly want to.

…and still I rise

Today I experienced a significant moment – I woke up to a notification from CNN that Maya Angelou passed away. I felt this incredible pang of sadness but wasn’t sure why. Yes, Dr. Angelou’s quotes had been all over my life. Yes, I’d read many of her poems. Yes, I’d watched her Oprah interview. But…

teach me all the lessons. now!

This is a post filled with questions and no answers. And that’s okay. Sometimes I put too much pressure on the universe. It’s not fair. This path that I’ve chosen to walk has taught me a lot about being present and open to everything the universe has to offer. I have loved every minute of…

let’s talk.

Communication. It’s a buzzword. And it’s one that I’m getting pretty exhausted with. I think about when I’m interviewing someone for a job – “Situation x happens in the workplace, how do you respond?” “Well, I’m a really good communicator, so I’d make sure that I was straightforward with the person so they knew what…

enough.

Let me set some context for this post. This is written from a place of longing to belong, a place of wanting to fit in, a place of searching for being ‘enough,’ and a journey to community. This is personal. This is emotional. I haven’t gone here before.

the space between…

I debated starting this post with a quote from that Dave Matthews Band song but it would be irrelevant. This post has nothing to do with that. There is this moment, this occurrence that I’m sure has a name but I’m not smart enough yet to know what it’s called. You know that moment, it’s…